Hello, I have put your question in the category "miscellaneous" as I felt "depression/aging" was inappropriate. I do not make the assumption that someone who feels that he has lived a full life and is ready to die is depressed nor needs to be talked out of his feelings. Do you feel that you have to do something to change their attitude? First of all, listen carefully to what they are saying and on what basis they have come to these conclusions. Are they talking about self-delivery or simply stating that they are comfortable with their dying. Are you comfortable with what they are saying? If not, then talk with others and/or your supervisor about your discomfort and see how you can better listen and support what your clients are saying. They need your support at this time--that is the most valuable gift you can give them. Be there as the person who hears them. I know it is a difficult task but you do not have to say anything or give advice or a "correct response"--just hear them, communicate that you care about them and let them know they are not alone. Best to you, Harold Kooden
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