Dear Friend,
Yes, many of us have gone through the same experience of our partner(s) and friends dying of complications from AIDS. And we continued to live and cherish our remaining loved ones. If anything, the experience taught us to appreciate our lives and how important are our relationships. Of course, there is always pain with losing loved ones but there is pain because we are missing a loved person. Would you rather not have had that person in your life as a way to avoid the pain of their absence?
The same question has to be asked and reaffirmed again. We shall always have our loved ones die before us just as someone(s) will mourn our dying. You can choose to limit your life and not make new friends which will only make you feel more isolated and be bsd for your physical and mental health. Or you can choose to keep living your life with making new friends and revitalizing your life. I am not denying the pain. I am saying that having loving friends and being a loving friend is what helps us to enjoy our life and tolerate the pain. Living out of fear only hurts you. You have gone through this before and did not reject those friends who were still alive. Look to them and future friends as part of this amazing process of your loving life. You are a survivor, as we all are. Keep reaching out and making those important connections. They are vital to helping us to age well.
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