I'm gay and I'm out but I live in a very straight community. How do I make friends?

It's very straight community? Well, even lumberjacks like to enjoy life and a laugh.

You didn't mention if you've lived in your community for a very long time or recently moved there. If you've recently moved in, you can make an attempt to be kind to an elderly neighbor, or bring a small gift to next door neighbors to introduce yourself.

Be yourself...you're a good person, aren't you? Let strangers meet you as a total person. You're gay, but there's alot more to you. Don't ghetto yourself or let others ghetto you. Kindness, graciousness, helpfulness and humor go very far in developing friendships. Conquer other people with kindness and good.

If you've lived there for a long time, have neighbors known you are gay and rejected you? Is it your perception that the neighbors don't like gay men or lesbians or have they made this known to you? Is this a neighborhood that you want to remain in if you honestly can't be comfortable?

Some persons can feel comfortable anywhere and will make things work out while others need to find their own oasis.

What do you need most in your life and what can you do to make your lihe happen?

Peace and Good, Ken

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